Learn to Let Go

Firstly, sorry this post is late, today I had to pop out first thing to do some chores. I was only meant to be out for about an hour, but one thing led to another, then another and before I knew it, the whole day had been taken up.

As it went on I found myself getting more and more agitated, frustrated and impatient…

Slowing down is about letting go. Letting go of want, of stuff, of frustration, anger and grudges and “I deserve”…

To really slow down you have to learn to let go. There are lots of ways of doing this, but one I have found very powerful (but a bit weird, so bear with me) was taught to me by an old hippy friend of mine (explains why it is a bit weird).

It is very straightforward and you can do it anytime anyway without looking odd (with a bit of practice), but I recommend you do it by yourself until you get the hang of it.

The way you do it is this: When you find yourself in a place of frustration, anger, blame, craving or agitation or whatever mental state you want to let go of. Tense your fist (whichever one feels right) squeeze it really tight and as you tense your fist, image all that pent-up mental state channelling from wherever you are feeling it in your body right now, down your arm into the fist, keep tensing your fist and image all that pent-up emotion in the centre of your palm. Once you have got it all in there (whenever feels right, could be seconds, could be a couple of minutes!) take a deep breath in and as you breath out gently relax your fist and imagine all that pent-up emotion being released and just floating off into the air…

You will feel better I promise (told you it was a bit odd, but I was taught it by a hippy so there you go…)

Have a good weekend!
Matt

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Slowing downing with the pressure of family and work

I often here the “reason” that people can’t slow down is because of pressures of work and family.

I am going to be uncharacteristically blunt here. That is an excuse. Plain and simple.

To slow down you need :

1. Slowing down has to be something you’re excited and passionate about; and

2. You have to make it a top priority, and structure your day so that it really is a priority.

It’s that simple. If you really want to do it you need to make it number 1 priority. It is not about neglecting your family or work life, far from it, by slowing down you will be able spend more time with your family and be more productive at work, but in the short term this may not seem the case.

Why?

Slowing down is an alien concept in these fast times and it is counter to all those hare brained habits and believes you have developed about what you should be doing.

It’s the little things…

Make it a priority in your day to do 1 thing “slowly” whether that is “single-tasking” and not letting your self be interrupted until you have finished the task you have started or making the effort to sit down with the family for an evening meal around the table rather than gobbling it down in front of the tv.

These tiny changes will start to make a very big difference over a short period of time. The biggest mistake people make…

When trying to slow down is trying to it all at once (our hare brain is used to wanting and getting results NOW!) and getting overwhelmed and giving in.

To slow down successfully, you need to slow down slowly! Implement one small change a week and you will be surprised how fast you find your are going slower…!

Matt